by Anneke Steyn | Jul 17, 2026 | Stories of Hope, Support
When the Map Changes
Christine Shaw
Life did not unfold the way anyone imagined it would for *Mia, *Hannah, and *Joshua.
Although they came from different biological families, the three children were adopted together while they were still young. They found a home to call their own and parents who hoped to give them the love, stability, and opportunities every child deserves. Over time, they became a family, and for a while it seemed that life was finally moving in the right direction.
Then the map began to change.
Mia, the eldest, struggled with emotions she often could not understand or express. Her pain eventually became so overwhelming that she was placed in foster care. The separation was heartbreaking. While Hannah and Joshua remained with their adoptive parents, the three siblings had to grow up on different paths. Yet the bond they had formed through their shared childhood endured.
The years that followed brought even greater change. The children were homeschooled, and after their adoptive mother passed away, grief reshaped every aspect of family life. Mia, who was already18 at the time and no longer in foster care, moved back to help their adoptive father. He continued to care for her adopted siblings with dedication, but simply getting through each day became the priority. Consequently, schoolwork, routines, and long-term planning gradually slipped into the background, leaving significant educational gaps.
Amid the uncertainty, a new opportunity emerged. Plans were made for the children to relocate abroad, where their adoptive father had family connections. They dreamed of new schools, new friendships, and the chance to begin again.
Then tragedy struck once more.
Before those plans could become reality, their adoptive father also passed away, leaving the three young people facing an uncertain future yet again.
Family friends opened their home to the two younger children while longer-term arrangements were made. By then, the educational setbacks had become too significant to ignore. Assistance was sought through the Department of Social Development, and the matter was referred to CMR Gauteng-East.
Today, Mia’s story is one of resilience and determination. As a young adult, she returned to her studies through a private college and successfully completed her schooling, standing as a testament to the power of perseverance and the belief that the past does not have to define the future.
Meanwhile, Hannah and Joshua have been placed in a youth care centre where they receive the structure, support, and educational assistance they need. Catching up after years of disruption is a daunting challenge, but their future has once again become the focus.
Social workers, caregivers, and support staff continue to stand by their side, helping them build the skills, confidence, and educational foundation they need for adulthood. Statutory support, however, extends only until they turn 18, leaving a vital gap before they are truly ready for the world. The hope is that additional support will enable them to continue receiving the care, guidance, and opportunities they need until the age of 21, giving them the best possible chance to prepare for independent living.
Their story reminds us that when people come together around a child, possibilities begin to grow where limitations once existed. Hope does not always arrive as a miracle. Sometimes it comes in the form of a safe place to stay, someone who believes in you, or simply another chance to begin again.
Their story is still being written.
There are still challenges ahead, but there is also hope. Hope in every exam passed. Hope in every new skill learned. Hope in every opportunity embraced, and in every person willing to journey with them. Because when life changes the map, it doesn’t have to end the journey. Sometimes, it simply marks the beginning of a new path. A path made possible because others choose to walk alongside you.
*Names have been changed to protect the children.
by Christine Shaw | Jul 13, 2026 | Stories of Hope, Support
A Story of Hope: When a child chooses hope.
By Christine Shaw
When *Tshepiso was eight years old, she learned that home could disappear overnight.
After her mother passed away, she moved into her aunt’s small house. The adults around her tried their best, but life often felt uncertain. Some days there was laughter around the table. Other days there were arguments, silence, and fear. Tshepiso carried a question inside her that no child should have to ask: Where do I truly belong?
As she grew older, she moved in with her sister and her sister’s boyfriend. At first, things seemed better. But slowly, the house became filled with shouting and violence. At night, Tshepiso lay awake listening to doors slam and angry voices echo through the walls. The fear followed her to school, where she had once been known as one of the brightest learners in her grade.
She dreamed of becoming a doctor. Science had once excited her, and teachers believed she had a promising future. But trauma is heavy, especially for a child carrying it alone. Her marks dropped, her confidence disappeared, and she failed Grade 10.
For a long time, Tshepiso believed failure meant she was no longer intelligent. She did not yet understand that pain can silence even the strongest mind.
One Sunday evening changed everything.
After returning from a leadership camp where she had proudly represented her school, Tshepiso arrived home to chaos. Her sister’s boyfriend shouted at her to leave and told her she would not sleep there that night. Frightened and heartbroken, she stood outside behind the house with nowhere to go.
In desperation, she called her social worker from CMR Gauteng East at the time.
Although it was late on a Sunday, her social worker came immediately.
That moment stayed with Tshepiso forever. Not because someone solved all her problems instantly, but because, for the first time in years, an adult made her feel safe. Someone listened. Someone came for her. Someone decided she mattered.
Tshepiso returned to stay with her aunt, and slowly, hope began rebuilding itself inside her. She repeated Grade 10 and changed her subjects, believing her original dream was gone. Yet she refused to stop trying.
Step by step, she focused on school again.
In 2020, she completed matric and achieved first position at her school. The girl who once believed she had failed at life suddenly remembered who she was. Opportunities followed as she was accepted at university with the help of another social worker, from CMR Gauteng East at the time, establishing a growing belief that her story was not ending in pain.
At the University of Johannesburg, Tshepiso studied social work. She worked hard and excelled academically, but more importantly, she discovered purpose. She wanted to become the kind of person who had once rescued her – a social worker who showed up when she as a child felt abandoned.
Years later, Tshepiso graduated.
Today, she works at one of the offices of the same organisation, CMR Gauteng East, that once protected her as a vulnerable child. Every day, she sits across from children carrying fear, grief, and uncertainty, and she reminds them gently that pain is not the end of their story.
Because she knows something they do not yet understand: That sometimes the child who survives the storm becomes the person who helps others find shelter.
* Pseudonym
by Christine Shaw | May 6, 2026 | Stories of Hope
*Jordan’s journey is a reminder that not every social work story ends in crisis. Some take time, persistence, and the right support, but they can lead to hope.
Several years ago, Jordan and his younger sister were removed from their mother’s care and placed in foster care. While his sister remained in a stable placement, Jordan’s path was more complex. After his first placement broke down, he spent time in a children’s home before moving to a second foster family.
This new placement brought opportunity, but it also revealed the depth of his trauma. Jordan struggled to adjust. Instead of his strengths being recognised – his intelligence and strong performance at school – the focus shifted to his behaviour.
He was frequently told that if he didn’t comply, he would be sent away or reported. Over time, he began to believe that everything going wrong around him was his fault.
This is not uncommon. Children who experience instability or prolonged stress often internalise blame. Research shows that when children lack consistent, reassuring relationships, they may assume responsibility for circumstances beyond their control. This can shape their self-worth, relationships, and behaviour for years to come.
At the same time, another story was unfolding.
Jordan’s father had spent six years trying to locate his children and re-establish contact. Living in another province, he eventually moved to Pretoria in the hope of being closer to them. Despite repeated attempts to arrange visits, communication with the children’s mother remained inconsistent. He was often told they were unavailable, away with friends, or staying over elsewhere, when in reality, they had already been removed from her care.
This reflects a lesser-discussed but deeply harmful dynamic: when a child’s relationship with one parent is disrupted or obstructed, whether intentionally or through breakdowns in communication. Even without clear intent, the result can resemble parental alienation – where a child grows up disconnected from a parent who is willing and able to be present. The emotional consequences of parental alienation can be significant. It often leads to depression, anxiety, low self-image, and the inability to build meaningful relationships as adults.
Toward the end of 2025, the father’s persistence began to pay off. With the support of the social workers of CMR Gauteng East, a reunification process was initiated. Services were put in place to support him, while careful planning ensured that Jordan’s needs remained central.
When the second foster placement broke down, it created both urgency and possibility.
Jordan expressed a clear desire to be reunited with his father. With the right preparation and support, that reunification became a reality.
On a quiet Friday morning, after years apart, father and son embraced again. Overwhelmed, relieved, and ready to begin anew.
Jordan’s story does not end here. Reunification is not a finish line, but the start of a new chapter. One that requires patience, consistency, and ongoing support.
But it is a powerful reminder that even in complex cases, after years of uncertainty, positive outcomes are possible.
Hope may take time, but it is always worth working toward.
(Name changed.)
by CMR@dmin | Jul 13, 2021 | News
As social workers, we come into contact with shocking human behaviour on a daily basis
Violence, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, denigration. The problem of humans behaving inappropriately towards one another, causing harm and trauma to others, has existed since the dawn of history.
In times gone by a shroud of silence was drawn over happenings in the home: in more affluent societies especially, since “bad stuff could not possibly happen in good homes”. Thus much damage was inflicted that remained unnoticed and unattended.
In 2021 there is probably only a small minority that has not been reached with the message that gender violence, sexual abuse and like behaviour is unacceptable and in fact, criminal.
But much harm is inflicted without physical violence. There is the ever-present possibility of sexual abuse in the home, covered by layers of secrecy and shame. Young children (mostly girls) have a slight to none chance of coming out with the truth and being believed by older people. If the truth were ever to be laid bare, the figures would probably be so shocking as to be near-unbelievable.
“As social workers, we come into contact with shocking human behaviour on a daily basis,” explains Henda van der Merwe, director of CMR Gauteng East. “We endeavour to reach our communities with programmes aimed at preparedness as well as early intervention and of course, being at the stope face we also have to get involved where statutory steps need to be taken in the interest of a child.
“Much can be achieved in preventing problems if people remain alert and aware of the impeding social factors around them: such as cyber bullying, emotional abuse or falling prey to porn addiction. Prevention is always better than having to address concomitant problems after they have become entrenched.
“Children that had to be removed from a home environment where they suffered severe trauma, have to be assisted with counselling to help them with healing and experiencing hope. Many of them show problem behaviours that could include anger, violence, self-harming and even attempted suicide – even in very young children.
“Our social workers support the child with long-term emotional healing and integration into society. The sad realities are not lessening, they are growing. This means we need more trained people able to help with the social ills of our time, as well as community members reporting after seeing or hearing these ills, ” van der Merwe concludes.
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